Why yes vs Why not
You know, in making decisions sometimes. Esp the kinda decisions when you can’t really decide what to do… I find myself asking “why not?” at times. And when there isn’t really any strong case for ”why not”, I’ll just go ahead to do it.
But hmm I think, it’s also important to ask and know “why yes”, and not just “why not”.
Why so?
“Why not” leaves options more opened. It’s the question of “why not” that leads me on to explore things that are unknown to me, and to “aiyah, just try lah”. Since, not much harm anyway.
And, “why not” does not just give way to the inquisitive, curious, side of myself. It also gives way to the “yup, sure no problem” part of me. Most of the time when someone needs help, I guess there usually aren’t reasons for”why not”, and so just went ahead to do it.
“Why not” is the part of me that is unafraid and willing to try new things, and is also the part of me that’s also quite suibian I guess, in the sense that I wouldn’t mind helping if I am actually able to.
But the question of “Why yes” is also an important one. It gives me the reasons for my passion, for my drive, for that extra edge! And when it comes to the more important decisions, I would like to know “why yes” rather than just the “why not”s. The “why yes” allows me to understand and know myself better, what my true feelings and self will be willing to fight for.
If an analogy could actually sorta be drawn parallel to acrobatic acts, “why not” is kinda like a safety net at the bottom. So long as that safety net line is not crossed, there’s not much harm, so “why not give it a try?” and “why not just help?”
And “why yes” is the trapeze bar that we try to reach and aim for. It’s the one that keeps and makes me more focussed. Adrenaline will rush through my head as I try to reach for the bar. Falls might be inevitable as I begin to train and start on the first few attempts at grabbing the bar. Plus, there will be those leaps of faith that I’ll have to take. Exciting! but also uncertain at the same time.
And of cos, there’s also the times when I don’t even think, and just went ahead to do things. Sometimes it’s that fhere’s really just no time to think, sometimes it’s a gut feel thing, or perhaps even impulsivity. But spontaniety is also good at times I guess. The weirdest and most random ideas could turn out to be pretty interesting at times. Just hope that I don’t end up asking, “Why like that?” at the end of my spontaneous decisions.
The true difficulty is in situational awareness, knowing exactly when to use what. And I hope I’ll have the wisdom to discern.
And it’s high time that I came to a decision. So I’ve decided, no more thinking, no more questions for now, and good night world!
